Most People's Idea of Fun Will Ruin Your Life

There's a revolutionary new way to think about fun

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Most people’s version of fun leads to hell on earth.

We just can’t see it. No one has the guts to point it out because they’re afraid people will judge them or call them losers. Well, I’ve got nothing to lose.

Here’s what most people’s idea of fun looks like.

Netflix every day

Netflix’s app is designed to get you addicted.

It’s why we binge-watch an entire season of a TV show in one sitting. It’s why people spend time every day watching Netflix. It’s addictive. The dopamine hit makes us feel like we’re making progress in life by ticking off another TV show.

I often watch TV shows to feel relevant and up to date in social settings. I learned a few years ago that trying to impress people at a dinner party is stupid. Who cares if I haven’t watched the latest Game of Thrones and can’t participate in the chat?

Netflix wastes your time. And time is the most precious resource we have. We don’t need all these TV shows and movies. All they do is numb us and hold us back.

Junk food to chill

When I see someone drink a can of Coke, it’s no different to me than seeing someone shoot up heroin.

I see sugar addiction, a cocktail of chemicals/additives, and overall bad health. But if you dare suggest to the average person that they should eat a healthy diet or watch their sugar intake, they’ll snap at you. Junk food is seen as letting your hair down.

“It’s just one doughnut,” they say.

What they often don’t know is junk food is engineered to be addictive. Just research what they put in a bag of Doritos corn chips. It’s enough to scare even the most skeptical person.

Junk food makes us low on energy and, eventually, overweight.

We don’t need it. The chemicals in junk food just make us THINK we need it. Once you detox off junk food you quickly realize how addictive it used to be.

Maybe junk food is fun for 30 minutes but it’ll destroy your energy levels for days or even weeks. And if you get addicted to junk food you’ll never have energy for the rest of your life.

Alcohol in a gorgeous crystal glass

I quit drinking a few years ago.

I used to think drinking was fun. Then I became single and went on the dating scene. I got blind drunk on dates with women to make myself more social.

Eventually, I got some customer feedback from the women I went on dates with, and they told me some version of “drinking made me not want to see you again.”

I thought alcohol was helping. Turns out alcohol was keeping me single.

When we get drunk we lose control of our actions and do stupid sh*t. After a night of drinking you wake up the next day with a huge hangover. This kills your energy levels for the next few days. You feel tired, sluggish, and slow.

When I gave up drinking people at work gave me crap.

“Ahhh you’re no fun anymore Timbo. Take a load off. Have a few drinks, mate.”

I refused. I lost friends. But oddly, I kept going out to bars and clubs and just drank lemon water instead. My real friends said I was more fun because I was being myself and had the energy to dance the night away.

Not drinking made me the life of the party.

Harsh truth: people who are addicted to getting drunk are losers. Alcohol isn’t good for you. It f*cks up your kidneys and destroys your energy.

The paradox here is most people are more fun when they *don’t* drink. The only reason people want you to drink is so they can feel okay for their own drinking.

Give up the booze and watch your life dramatically improve.

Tinder dating apps

I got stuck on Tinder for about a year.

Society told me it was fun. Hook up culture was everywhere. Most female friends I spoke to said they went on these dating apps and just got pitched s*x 24/7. They were tired of dudes asking for free s*x after one message.

I had a similar experience. I found Tinder was all about the photos you put up of yourself. If you’re not naturally Brad Pitt (like me), it’ll be a disappointing experience. It’s hard to convey personality or depth of character in a two-sentence dating profile.

Fun isn’t having one-night stands every night.

Real fun is when you meet a romantic partner and spend years or even your whole life with them. And the best fun I’ve had is starting a family and having a snotty little toddler running around screaming “Nooooo” to every request I make of her.

Dating apps are just s*x addiction in disguise. And that’s no fun.

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Here’s what real fun is (that’ll transform your life)

A few suggestions to get you back into the world of real fun.

1. Writing quietly on the internet

When I tell people I like to write, the alcoholic fun police diss me.

“Writing is for nerds. That’s not cool.”

Maybe. But being cool is overrated. Writing might be nerdy, but it helps you think. It helps you attract new opportunities that you previously could never have dreamed of.

Writing is how you make sense of all the B.S. that happens in your life. It helps you assign meaning to seemingly annoying life events.

Writing is fun because you meet new people too. And those people will often change your life in unexpected ways.

2. Exercising next to Arnold Schwarzenegger

Exercise is where you take pain and turn it into progress.

That’s some of the most fun you’ll ever have. Doing extra reps and pushing beyond your personal best is addictive.

Spend a year at the gym and you’ll become a different person. You’ll accidentally adopt a self-improvement mindset, that’ll bleed into every area of life and make you feel unstoppable.

3. Reading a book like a snowflake

I’m a book nerd.

My neighbor Andrew says I’m a snowflake. He says losers like to read. They get lost in books, instead of watching sport or hanging out with the bros and stuffing a BBQ lunch into their face.

Maybe reading makes me weak. I’m okay with that. Thanks to reading I’ve got to hang out with presidents, pirates, and business tycoons. The stories I read in non-fiction books are real and aren’t full of repetitive Marvel superheroes.

Books are where you find new ideas, and that’s some of the most fun you can have.

4. Getting into a powerful flow state

Flow is when you get so engulfed in a task that 8 hours feels like 30 minutes.

Your creativity shoots through your home office roof. Your imagination goes wild. Flow makes you feel superhuman. You feel like you can do anything. You can achieve a month’s worth of work in a day.

Real progress from flow states is crazy fun. Better than slamming down beers and making your belly explode out of your pants so you can commentate on the weather, politics, or the news.

5. A date with a partner who loves you

Real love is better than Tinder lust.

Dates with your significant other are a blast. You get to hang out and share a life together.

Instead of hanging around temporary tourist lovers who only wanna lick your private parts, you get to hang out with a human being who sees the depths of your personality.

6. Making money online in your underpants

I shouldn’t have added this one. Screw it.

Making money online is a lot of fun. It’s a way to set yourself free over time from oppressors, bad bosses, and “we are family” employers who’ll gladly fire you for no reason if a recession hits.

It’s not the money that’s fun but the progress you make. When you go from zero email subscribers to a hundred it feels like a million dollars. When you collaborate with other creators you make friends for life.

When you sign up your first customer or sell your first newsletter subscription, you start to believe anything is possible.

Everyone should make money online by themselves at least once to experience personal freedom.

Conclusion

Choose the wrong version of fun, and you’ll get stuck in the hell of average. Choose the right version of fun, and you’ll join the top 1%.

Tell me in the comments section below which one of these points about fun resonates with you and why.

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