Hi Tim. If you start a “Living All Out” Club I’m in! I was living a half-lived life for almost a decade after my husband died. I made a list of everything I was doing because of my loss and suffering and changed it all. I’m now healthy, happy and living my best life. My sons are too. I’ll never regret burning it all down and passing along the life skill of possibility and change to my sons. Thank you for sharing this today. Powerful!
I was at rock bottom 8 years after my husband’s suicide. My youngest was going to college. I was turning 50. I was a shell of myself. My sons were growing up I had not. Too much isolation, numbing and anxiety. I actually was sick of myself. I made a list of what I wanted to be. Started small everyday and haven’t looked back. I wanted to have a life filled with joy and love again. I didn’t want my sons to live the rest of their life with a mother who gave up. I didn’t give up.
We don't need to do extravagant things to start truly living. We don't have to quit our jobs, start a business, climb mountains, or begin writing. We often believe these actions will increase our chances of feeling good about ourselves, and that's probably true. However, what truly matters in the end is our mindset. We must awaken to the fact that we assign meaning and interpretation to our lives at every moment. This means that a millionaire can be miserable, while a night watchman can find happiness. Ultimately, mindset is the key.
It seems to me that the only way of upgrading our mindset is seeing very clearly that our mindset is the only thing that is pulling us down. When we have a problem, that's basically a pointer that our mindset is not developed enough for the current situation.
And finally, meaning is made at the level of thinking, so our problems are purely mental. So, when a problem arises, the appropriate question would be, how do I have to think about this, so that it isn't a problem? I'm not talking about repressing it into unconscious because it's uncomfortable, instead, I'm talking about solving it once and forever, so that it sets us free, and doesn't trigger us any more. What do you think, does it make sense to you?
Ooh tricky one... if people are not ready to change, who am I to tell them that they are not living life to the full? I'd rather say that the way to do it is to lead by example.. if they then get curious and want to know how you did it, you can tell them then.. I tried telling my best friend once.. ooh what followed was a tsunami of reasons as to why not although I was trying to be gentle saying that she could be so much more, which is what she was complaining about in the first place.. oops.
It’s a huge favour rather than being rude. A wise man may be offended at first, because if you know, ego.. but he will take it on board and improve. And thank you.
I had put following questions from one of Clark Kegley's videos into my phone as text widgets:
- What would I do if I was fearless and could not fail?
- What will I be most proud of one year from today?
- What are 3 things I need to stop?
- What advice would I give someone else in my same situation?
I can confidently say that this newsletter post resonated with these questions a lot and added a new layer, so I've added your question as my fifth question into my phone:
- What would I have to believe to become unstoppable?
Your belief is really good, so I should steal it:
- Anything is possible if I put my mind to it.
I'm almost 40, and I believe I've lived a half-lived life, even though I'm doing what I like... but maybe I'm not obsessed enough.
I have had a concrete goal for a few months, but I'm still continuing to sabotage myself. I have been in this vicious cycle my whole life. I'm looking for an exit, and your newsletter is really helping me.
Learning, trying, and creating things constantly. And I have this urge to teach what I know and influence people who might benefit from my knowledge. I have broad interests like design, coding, chess, puzzles, poetry, lyrics, singing, entrepreneurship, having products and courses, habit forming, life design.. and I like them all. You might say I'm suffering from shiny object syndrome, and that's probably right. So I've decided to become a teacher for e-learners and write down the following statement, thanks to Russel Brunson:
"I, Ömür Yanıkoğlu, will be a very-well known educational content creator in the world.
In return, I will spend an additional two hours during weekdays and five hours during weekends on my side hustle.
Starting in 2024, I will achieve having an online community with ten courses, and from then onward till the end of 2025, I will have in my possession $1,000,000. I will have my inner peace."
What would I have to believe to become unstoppable? To achieve my goals?
I think I have to believe that I am a teacher who loves to learn and wants to teach to live in peace with myself.
Hey Tim, great article again. I found myself reading it in your voice!
You're right. I'm living a half-lived life and it's draining. I'm doing some self-reflection in the mirror now and going to make changes. If I don't do it now, I'll keep thinking about it and it's going to keep eating away at me.
One thing that's holding me back the most these past years is my job. I've had 3 office jobs in 3 years and none of them have clicked.
Fear of not having work and an income is what holds me back from leaving. But I know that I can work hard at something that I really want to do and actually earn a living from it.
One thing that's holding me back the most these past years is my job. I've had 3 office jobs in 3 years and none of them have clicked.
Fear of not having work and an income is what holds me back from leaving. But I know that I can work hard at something that I really want to do and actually earn a living from it.
Go Tim!! my turnaround was reading the book "The Road Less Travelled ". It changed my life and I never got off the road . I can't say it always been easy but I can say it's always been interesting and usually rewarding .
I was guilty of just existing in a half-lived life. I thank my lucky stars I realized the power I have in my own mind to create my experience. Taking radical responsibility for our lives is how we live fully.
Thank you Tim for your honesty. I can truly relate to the half-lived life story and brain fog. Still unsure after switching off all dopamine addictions and meditating, how to unblock my inner self, knowing I can do more and be greater. If you could touch that opic of how to re-program to achieve your potential, would be wonderful.
You know, sometimes, it is not all your life that is half-lived but only some aspect in it! One has to stop sometimes to think, rethink and adjust with new habits. I found that the environment we live in has to change to make real progress!
"giving up prior believe that brainwash into mediocrity." This for me resonated with me the most. I come from a place where culture and religion intersect. This creates limition as exploring some area of life would be seen as "unacceptable." For instance, to question status quo would mean to be disrespectful. It's an unending tunnel!
Hi Tim. If you start a “Living All Out” Club I’m in! I was living a half-lived life for almost a decade after my husband died. I made a list of everything I was doing because of my loss and suffering and changed it all. I’m now healthy, happy and living my best life. My sons are too. I’ll never regret burning it all down and passing along the life skill of possibility and change to my sons. Thank you for sharing this today. Powerful!
Cheering you on! You are an inspiration!
Love this
Great share, Sandra. You got this!
What caused such a radical change in you Sandra?
I was at rock bottom 8 years after my husband’s suicide. My youngest was going to college. I was turning 50. I was a shell of myself. My sons were growing up I had not. Too much isolation, numbing and anxiety. I actually was sick of myself. I made a list of what I wanted to be. Started small everyday and haven’t looked back. I wanted to have a life filled with joy and love again. I didn’t want my sons to live the rest of their life with a mother who gave up. I didn’t give up.
What a difficult time Sandra. So sorry to hear. Hope your sons are okay.
Thank you Tim. My sons are more than okay. They are loving, empathetic, kind, funny and are living life out loud.
P.S. I signed up for your 30 Days of Writing class in September. Can’t wait.
Welcome Sandra. Look forward to writing with you in 2 weeks time.
You will love it Sandra! :-) I did the last one in July... It's great!
We don't need to do extravagant things to start truly living. We don't have to quit our jobs, start a business, climb mountains, or begin writing. We often believe these actions will increase our chances of feeling good about ourselves, and that's probably true. However, what truly matters in the end is our mindset. We must awaken to the fact that we assign meaning and interpretation to our lives at every moment. This means that a millionaire can be miserable, while a night watchman can find happiness. Ultimately, mindset is the key.
Davor, how do we upgrade our mindset?
It seems to me that the only way of upgrading our mindset is seeing very clearly that our mindset is the only thing that is pulling us down. When we have a problem, that's basically a pointer that our mindset is not developed enough for the current situation.
And finally, meaning is made at the level of thinking, so our problems are purely mental. So, when a problem arises, the appropriate question would be, how do I have to think about this, so that it isn't a problem? I'm not talking about repressing it into unconscious because it's uncomfortable, instead, I'm talking about solving it once and forever, so that it sets us free, and doesn't trigger us any more. What do you think, does it make sense to you?
love this !!
Which part?
“ No one tell you you're living a half-lived life ”
“ Give up staying the same and living like a sheep ”
“ Give up your repeatable excuses ”
“ If you're not going to live an all out life , what the freaking hell is the point ? ”
I wish more people knew they were living a half-lived life.
Is it rude to tell someone, Sarah?
Ooh tricky one... if people are not ready to change, who am I to tell them that they are not living life to the full? I'd rather say that the way to do it is to lead by example.. if they then get curious and want to know how you did it, you can tell them then.. I tried telling my best friend once.. ooh what followed was a tsunami of reasons as to why not although I was trying to be gentle saying that she could be so much more, which is what she was complaining about in the first place.. oops.
It’s a huge favour rather than being rude. A wise man may be offended at first, because if you know, ego.. but he will take it on board and improve. And thank you.
Nope . It's better to tell someone about it , make them realize they're living a half-lived life .
yeah , after reading your letter , I finally realized I have been living a half-lived life all my life . Thank you for that !
I had put following questions from one of Clark Kegley's videos into my phone as text widgets:
- What would I do if I was fearless and could not fail?
- What will I be most proud of one year from today?
- What are 3 things I need to stop?
- What advice would I give someone else in my same situation?
I can confidently say that this newsletter post resonated with these questions a lot and added a new layer, so I've added your question as my fifth question into my phone:
- What would I have to believe to become unstoppable?
Your belief is really good, so I should steal it:
- Anything is possible if I put my mind to it.
I'm almost 40, and I believe I've lived a half-lived life, even though I'm doing what I like... but maybe I'm not obsessed enough.
I have had a concrete goal for a few months, but I'm still continuing to sabotage myself. I have been in this vicious cycle my whole life. I'm looking for an exit, and your newsletter is really helping me.
Thank you for doing this.
What are you truly obsessed with?
Learning, trying, and creating things constantly. And I have this urge to teach what I know and influence people who might benefit from my knowledge. I have broad interests like design, coding, chess, puzzles, poetry, lyrics, singing, entrepreneurship, having products and courses, habit forming, life design.. and I like them all. You might say I'm suffering from shiny object syndrome, and that's probably right. So I've decided to become a teacher for e-learners and write down the following statement, thanks to Russel Brunson:
"I, Ömür Yanıkoğlu, will be a very-well known educational content creator in the world.
In return, I will spend an additional two hours during weekdays and five hours during weekends on my side hustle.
Starting in 2024, I will achieve having an online community with ten courses, and from then onward till the end of 2025, I will have in my possession $1,000,000. I will have my inner peace."
What would I have to believe to become unstoppable? To achieve my goals?
I think I have to believe that I am a teacher who loves to learn and wants to teach to live in peace with myself.
I'm not sure if this is true, but I'll try.
Hey Tim, great article again. I found myself reading it in your voice!
You're right. I'm living a half-lived life and it's draining. I'm doing some self-reflection in the mirror now and going to make changes. If I don't do it now, I'll keep thinking about it and it's going to keep eating away at me.
By the way, who's Johnny Big Balls?
Johnny Big Balls was a sex education character we made up in high school during a role play.
wha....?!?!? hahaha that's defo not the s ed we had in Hungary... god don't even want to think about what we had.. Go Australia LOL
How often have you tried to "change" Stefano? What do you think is keeping you from sticking with the change each time you try?
Discipline is a big one for me. Another is fear.
One thing that's holding me back the most these past years is my job. I've had 3 office jobs in 3 years and none of them have clicked.
Fear of not having work and an income is what holds me back from leaving. But I know that I can work hard at something that I really want to do and actually earn a living from it.
Stefano, have you tried starting a one-person business?
Hey Tim, not yet. That's my next goal. I think the best way for me to do this is to jump in the deep end and quit my job without an income.
I find that having this pressure and no income can motivate me. I'm going to keep you updated, and I'm look forward to the September 4/28 Challenge
Discipline is a big one for me. Another is fear.
One thing that's holding me back the most these past years is my job. I've had 3 office jobs in 3 years and none of them have clicked.
Fear of not having work and an income is what holds me back from leaving. But I know that I can work hard at something that I really want to do and actually earn a living from it.
You can always get another job so you'll never be without an income.
You're right Tim. Thanks for reminding me, it's giving me the motivation I need to quit my job.
Go Tim!! my turnaround was reading the book "The Road Less Travelled ". It changed my life and I never got off the road . I can't say it always been easy but I can say it's always been interesting and usually rewarding .
It's amazing what a book can do. Any other books that helped you?
Profound. Harsh but true. I had to lower my head when I looked in the mirror. I must accept this reality before I look up again. Thank you.
Why did you have to lower your head?
Acceptance, and no longer regret.
I was guilty of just existing in a half-lived life. I thank my lucky stars I realized the power I have in my own mind to create my experience. Taking radical responsibility for our lives is how we live fully.
What created the shift Amy?
It happened in stages, but the first phase of waking up came as the result of escaping an abusive marriage.
Thought provoking as always, and just incendiary enough to get me to pay attention. Thank you.
Question is, what are you now going to do with it Carolyn?
Powerful stuff … even more resonant at 57 !
What stood out the most Gerard?
All I know is I’m going to read this several times, thank you.
What part resonated the most?
“Once you decide that you want better for yourself, the entire universe begins to shift in your favor.” – Idil Ahmed
This quote I fully believe in. I really loved this post, you being up some great hard hitting things to reflect on
I only found Ethan Musolini the other day. She's awesome.
Thank you Tim for your honesty. I can truly relate to the half-lived life story and brain fog. Still unsure after switching off all dopamine addictions and meditating, how to unblock my inner self, knowing I can do more and be greater. If you could touch that opic of how to re-program to achieve your potential, would be wonderful.
I struggle with dopamine addictions. What strategy did you use to fix it?
Great article!
You know, sometimes, it is not all your life that is half-lived but only some aspect in it! One has to stop sometimes to think, rethink and adjust with new habits. I found that the environment we live in has to change to make real progress!
Thanks Tim,
Interesting. Do you think the career is often the most half-lived part?
This is inspiring. Thank you Tim.
What part resonated the most?
"giving up prior believe that brainwash into mediocrity." This for me resonated with me the most. I come from a place where culture and religion intersect. This creates limition as exploring some area of life would be seen as "unacceptable." For instance, to question status quo would mean to be disrespectful. It's an unending tunnel!