These Powerful Lessons I Learned from Tony Robbins Cost Me Thousands of Dollars (Here They Are For Free)
They're not the common lessons you've heard a million times either. They'll help you get an unfair advantage in life.
Tony Robbins makes Disney’s Big Friendly Giant look like a pebble.
I’ve been to many of his events. At one event I got to look him in the eye and shake his hand. He’s a polarizing character.
Due to a weird hormone in-balance he’s unusually large. His hands are bigger than my head. The guy wears Air Jordans that are three times the size of my sneakers because no respectable, formal shoe company makes a product for a human giant. There’s just not a big enough market.
Attending Tony’s events has cost me a lot of money over the years. My friends and family think I’m bonkers. They don’t get it.
But once you’ve encountered Tony’s work your entire life will transform. I want to share with you some of the best lessons I’ve learned from him. These are not the cliche lessons you can google. In fact, they’re bizarreo lessons you’re getting for free.
These people are the true billionaires in society
Lots of money doesn’t make you happy which is why billionaires suck. You’re smart and knew that already.
The rarest human being on the planet is someone who wakes up every day and is happy. If that’s not you already then that’s what you want to model until you are. Forget about fame and riches that lead most people to desperation.
My trick is this: To be happy, make other people happy.
Energy makes you beautiful even if you are ugly
Boob implants or fake male pectorals don’t make a human beautiful. A plastic surgeon can’t surgically implant happiness in your brain.
Beautiful people have a good energy about them. They’re high on energy. They make you feel great even when you’re down. That’s my goal in life, although I still suck at it.
You might be wondering how you can attract more energy into life. Simple. Tony says energy comes from your psychology and mindset. Work on those two skills.
Don’t let rotten apples into your day. The people you surround yourself with determine your energy. That’s why playing office politics is so bad because it drains your energy.
Ditch the oxygen thieves.
Hang around high-energy people who build others up. Move your body with high levels of energy the way a strong person does, even if you’re a skinny rat like me. Show the world your power move. Keep your head held high.
The truth doesn’t sound elegant
Sometimes I get complaints about my occasional use of the f-word.
People misunderstand. I don’t use the f-word to be mean. I use the f-word because the truth isn’t elegant and spoken by a person in a dinner suit at a cocktail ball full of uptight wankers. The truth rips your face off. It makes you want to vomit.
Good.
That’s where change happens.
That’s when unstoppable human beings are reborn. Learn to love harsh language so brutal messages infect your brain and change your life.
Freedom happens when we take back control
Tony teaches us to take back control of our lives. Ditch the debt that shackles your sexy feet to the floor.
Exit people from your life that do illegal drugs or violently harm people. Take out the trash. But leave the door open in case they work on themselves and come back into your life as a new person (rare, but possible).
Control happens when you make tough decisions.
What are your standards? Cool. Now raise them. Keep raising your standards until you get closer to a life you call phenomenal.
That’s why I quit my job. My new standard says I will run a business to feed my family. No more bosses. No more bro culture. No more office shenanigans. Just me and my buddy Todd doing what we love: teaching.
The same can happen to you when you decide enough is enough of this bullsh*t.
People don't buy products, they buy identities
Took me over a decade to learn this. I recently launched a new online course.
This time I changed the description of the course to focus on the identity potential students were looking for.
That identity translated into high-energy content creators who want to earn 6-figures by learning to write 10X faster. The course has been a huge success. Tony’s advice worked.
Sell a future identity, not a stupid product or service.
The reason you’re reading this newsletter right now
You’re not reading this because of my pretty face. You unconsciously desire to read these words because you want to change how you feel. Great. This is the right place.
Notice when you want to change how you feel. Analyze the feeling. Why is that? It’s probably because you’re not where you want to be. That’s okay. The fun part is, the journey to get where you want to go.
Learning to notice how you feel is a massive step to transformation.
Absolute certainty has unbelievable power
There’s one thing I’m sure of: I will be one of the most popular writers on the internet in the next few years. Myself and the likes of other writers like Sean Kernan and Michael Thompson will be the Tim Ferrisses and Ryan Holidays one day.
There’s no doubt in my mind. I don’t believe this because I’m some cocky idiot from Australia. Nope.
I have absolute conviction because Tony taught me the power of certainty. Every day I remind myself of my own potential power. So far I have reached half a billion people with my writing. This is my destiny. I wrote that premonition into fruition.
Why can’t you?
What’s holding you back? Own your power. Make a declaration as to what you’ll do before you enter your coffin, and make it freaking happen. Can I get a hell yeah?
Complexity is the enemy of execution
The best question on Earth: What would this look like if it were easy?
Life is already hard enough. Make things easier on yourself by chunking down complex tasks.
Say no to asks of your time if the request is too complex or you don’t feel it. Complexity will suck the energy from your life. Simplicity does the opposite. It builds up your energy reserves so they can be deployed towards meaningful things in life.
You absolutely must write things down or you’ll flush the best advice down the toilet
I didn’t take notes before 2012. The lessons, thoughts, and ideas from my years as a 20-something entrepreneur with over 100 employees are dead. Extinct.
Tony says we must write things down as it gives us a 40-50% increase in retention. That’s why I bought the Roam Research app. It’s my second brain that captures all my thoughts and connects them together using artificial intelligence.
There’s a second level of writing things down. “Information without emotion isn’t retained,” says Tony.
At Tony’s events he deliberately puts you into emotional states. You go from waterfalls of tears to euphoria all in a few hours. That’s how Tony is able to cement change. A great example is 911.
The day the World Trade Center was destroyed is a day everybody remembers. We all know where we were. That’s what powerful emotion does.
Emotion is the permanent marker that writes the ideas you need to change your life in your memory bank forever.
The way to use emotion to your advantage is to notice how you feel when you write stuff down. If something makes you pissed of then write it down. Really feel it. If something inspires you then let the energy leak into your words.
Roam Research helps you capture your daily thoughts, which can provide the context to every note you create and remind you of the emotion, so you don’t forget it (not every day can be a 911 memory, obviously).
Pain drives you or it can destroy you. Killing pain kills drive.
Many people want to kill their pain. They want to be wrapped in a sleeping bag of comfort while wearing a onesie. They want the walls to be made of pillows.
Not me amigo.
Pain is what tells me what to do next. If you feel pain and use tv, alcohol, or you adopt the life of an online troll to numb it, you’re killing your advantage.
Pain will destroy you if you let it.
Tony says the greatest human beings that have ever lived had the toughest lives. Look at Nelson Mandela. The pain is what gave them the drive to achieve the impossible.
Don’t avoid pain. Lean into pain for motivation.
The key to any romantic relationship
At the start of a romantic relationship you will do anything. One day things change.
That may bring you to the end of a relationship. All you need to reverse the damage is do what you did in the beginning. What’s the difference?
At the beginning of a relationship you aren't evaluating what you are getting.
Keeping score f*cks up your life. Stop it.
Start to develop a curiosity about your negative thoughts. That will change your life.
I used to be a ridiculous pessimist. After attending Tony’s events, I began to analyze my negative thoughts. One idea from Tony interrupted my thought pattern:
What's wrong is always available, but so is, what is right.
You choose negative thoughts, therefore, you can choose positive thoughts. A question that helps me when negative thinking takes over is this: What would I have to believe to make this thought positive?
Or...
What would Tony think in this moment?
Questions change your life. Your psychology programs your future. That’s the biggest lesson I learned from Tony Robbins and you didn’t have to pay thousands of dollars like me to get it.
This instalment of Unfiltered is free for everyone. I send this email weekly. If you would also like to receive it, join the 50,000+ other smart people who absolutely love it today.
👉 If you enjoyed reading this post, feel free to share it with friends!
Excellent!