You Feel Horrible Because Your Subconscious Knows You're Being Less than You Can Be
Phones are a beautiful source of depression.
The subconscious mind is hard to lie to.
It knows the real you.
And when you ignore what is happening deep in your mind – and try to numb it with distractions, overworking, entertainment, and dopamine-destroying activities – things only get worse.
I do these things you’re about to read, too, so don’t think I’m some freaking Tim Denning angel with a perfectly shaped ass that can do no wrong.
Not all of these will apply to you…but at least one will.
You let negative experiences hold you back
We love to drown in excuses.
When serious adversities strike it’s easy to let them become a get-out-of-jail-free card. One person said to me via DM today “I’ve got huge medical bills. I’m sick.”
You’d expect me to be sympathetic. I was…a bit. But if your solution to life’s problems is “my health sucks” then it’ll only hold you back.
Right now my ankle is screwed and I can hardly walk. My 11 month old daughter barely sleeps, so I’m sleep-deprived worse than a prisoner of war being interrogated and tortured by the CIA for information.
Yet here I am. Writing. Doing my best. Trying. Making stuff happen.
Sickness shouldn’t hold you back. It should be giant motivation to remind you that you will die, so stop piss-farting around and do something, anything.
You feel trapped and can’t get a breakthrough
Same job. Same partner. Same problems. Same results.
Same boring day over and over, like a never-ending Groundhog Day. Routines can be a sign of stagnation. They can be deadly and no one tells you.
You won’t get a breakthrough unless you break YOU.
The answer isn’t more of the same. The answer is a 360. New country. New partner. Multiple partners. New career. New business. All new friends who don’t drive a Benz.
Once you let go of the old life that doesn’t serve you, there’s a whole new world out there that looks and feels nothing like what you’re used to.
Take the risk or you’ll be doing the same sh*t for the rest of your life – Aaron Will
You refuse to start again
Divorce. Bankruptcy. Layoff. Business failure.
It can be the end or a new beginning. Only you decide. But if you refuse to let it go, accept the loss, and see it as a lesson, you’ll never learn the solution to recover and get on with life.
That’s sad. That’s enough to rip a person apart to the point where they can’t be put back together again.
Starting again is easier than staying broken.
You let victim labels define you
“I’m a single father.”
“I was a foster kid.”
“I lived through XYZ war.”
“I came from a suppressed community.”
“I’ve never had money and always been poor.”
Why are you saying these things? Is it designed to get attention and seek sympathy? Or to let your subconscious off the hook? The world doesn’t care that you faced adversity. Everyone has. Everyone will.
None of us are special. And no one is coming to save you. Stop with the labels as they’re drowning out your consciousness. They’re robbing you blind and sabotaging your life, and your subconscious can see it.
You’ve had too many ideas and not enough execution
“Henry Miller says I have good ideas.”
Screw Henry. He’s just trying to be nice and get into your back pocket. He, too, doesn’t care about you either. He’s saying nice things because it’s the in thing to do.
Ideas are worth $0. Your mind isn’t fooled. The world isn’t either.
What makes you feel better is execution. It’s results. It’s 8 hours in a flow state. It’s a day of hard work that serves someone beyond yourself.
You committed to making a big change and didn’t follow through
Transformation is a necessary part of living.
It’s a big part of nature and we humans are directly tied to the ecosystem, no matter how superior we think we are to all other living things.
But we feel horrible when we delay the necessary transformation to a future version of ourselves that doesn’t exist. It lets our current self off the hook, but the feeling undermines everything good in life.
If it’s time for a change you need to change. It must be done today, even if it starts with one tiny step.
You let goals stay idle
Goals are fake dopamine.
They should be called wishes, or hopes. 99% of people’s goals never happen. They’re just fantasies they indulge in and get off to while they’re not at work.
Your subconscious isn’t stupid. It knows when you take action. It knows when you’re lacking execution and are all talk.
The best way to reveal the truth is to write your goals down and track the process.
You feel like sh*t because you’re always on the phone
(Controlled by notifications that are other people’s priorities.)
Your mind is on a lower level of consciousness when it’s glued to a phone and sent into cyberspace to become a part of someone else’s rat race.
I’ve never met someone who spends a lot of time on their phone and is happy. I reckon I currently spend less than 30 minutes a day on mine. Most of the time I throw it in a drawer to be away from it.
Phones are a beautiful source of depression.
The media machine can’t wait to mess up your day with news of a new war, or political unrest somewhere in the world. Or some new tragedy, as if death wasn’t hardcoded into the human experience and is a giant surprise.