10 Things You Won’t Give a F*ck About in 10 Years
10 years on you can’t even remember ex-lovers or what they looked like naked.
Every f*ck you give in life takes up energy.
Energy is what you need to survive and thrive. So most games in life aren’t intelligence games. They’re energy games.
This means the person who can give a f*ck less will have more energy to outperform in he or she’s chosen field.
I guarantee you won’t give a flying f*ck about these things in 10 years.
1. How old you are
One of the biggest problems in life is we think we started something too late.
The truth is it’s never too late to start. The real problem is if you never started. That’ll give you regrets that feel worse than a cluster of hemorrhoids up your butt.
Never forget Colonel Sanders who created KFC didn’t start until he was 65. Until then he was considered a bum by many.
Today is the youngest you will ever be. And tomorrow is not guaranteed.
My friend Michael told me last week he has 6 deadly tumors in his throat and has to have surgery. He’s had cancer something like 6+ times and survived.
In 10 years it’s not your age but how you lived that will matter. Age is just a dumbass number. Age is felt not measured.
2. What you said no to
I’m a no guy.
Every week I gladly say no to a massive list of requests. The main reason right now is that my daughter is due to be born any moment.
No one is going to take a single minute away from my daughter’s first few breaths. I even got asked to join Mark Cuban and his offsider today at an event and said no.
Saying yes to people-please is a harmful virus. I refuse. In 10 years it’s not the noes I will remember but what I said yes to.
Say more noes to increase your focus.
3. The jobs you got rejected for
I got told many times in 2019 by employers, hiring managers, and recruiters that I was a flawed human.
What they didn’t know is in my 20s I built a startup that employed 100+ people. Or that I’ve reached half a billion people through writing online.
Shortly after those hard conversations and epic rejections, I went on to make 7-figures online. So it turns out they were all freaking wrong! Rejection isn’t the truth.
Rejection could mean:
We don’t get you
We hired internally
We’re not hiring anymore
We put a job ad up as a test only
We hired someone who is a safer bet
10 years on you don’t remember the rejections. You remember who you became after the redirections.
My job rejections taught me to build a life I own and don’t need permission slips for. Your rejections will hold their own powerful lessons.
4. Your physical possessions (that’ll probably be in the bin)
Possessions don’t last long (by design).
In 10 years you’ll have a different phone, car, computer etc. We spend so must time and energy acquiring these things, only for them to get thrown away so fast.
We’re scared we might have our possessions stolen. It’s why we buy insurance and install security cameras. But is it necessary? Noppppeeeeeee.
Prioritize experiences over possessions. That’s what you’ll remember in 10 years.
5. Whether your current boss liked you or not
The last boss I had didn’t like me much. F*ck him.
He got fired for being an incompetent moron shortly after I quit my job. A boss’s opinion doesn’t last. We’re wired to move towards good leaders and away from sh*tty ones. In 10 years you’ll likely have leveled up to work with much better leaders.
A boss doesn’t determine your career – you do. And a career people look up to and marvel at is built on mindset, not ‘experience’ or bosses’ opinions.
If your current boss sucks, screw them. Wiesel your way out of that hellhole to a better life with a leader who cares.
6. What someone said in a social media comment
I’ve had plenty of horse manure thrown at me on social media over the years.
People love to criticize you because they want what you have. 99% of comments on anything you post will be forgotten. Better yet, you can just not read them if you’re a sensitive guy/gal.
Negative comments are actually a gift. It was only when I started being myself and covering important topics that I got a few sly remarks and attacks.
No friction, no growth.
7. How bad your online writing was
I know what you’re thinking?
Perhaps you don’t believe you’re an online writer. Yes you are. If you post family photos, send emails/DMs, write PowerPoints for work … congrats you’re a writer.
(If you still said no to that remark you’re lying. Stop it.)
So what you write on the internet can be found in ten years. I look back on my library of content and laugh.
I once told people if they didn’t wake up at 4 am like me they were zombies (aka losers). That was a dumb thing to say, but hey, I was a young punk with a big ego. The bad writing led to the more helpful writing I’d like to think I indulge in now.
Seeing your bad writing from years ago is a sign of growth. Be proud.
8. What your hair or outfit looked like at a big event
When a baby is born you take lots of photos.
That’s an occasion I’m planning for right now. People have the most flawless baby photos. The parents have airbrushed skin, the baby has the perfect outfit, the lighting is better than if a Hollywood crew did it.
Meanwhile, I’m having an acne breakout, grey hairs have appeared out of nowhere, my skin is dry, my teeth need a clean, and I need to buy some new clothes.
I’ve been overthinking it. I nearly fell into the trap of showing up to meet my daughter while being distracted with being Instagram sexy.
I stopped myself.
In 10 years I won’t remember what I wore or how my hair looked on that day. No. I will remember what it was like to see my daughter for the first time.
That’s what counts.
9. The argument you had today
In the last year, as my online business has performed better, I’ve encountered more arguments. A few people have financially tried to take advantage of me.
But arguments aren’t remembered years on. What I remember is how I solved issues, fought battles, and managed to show compassion and move on.
Arguments are opportunities for personal growth.
10. The person you broke up with
Feels overwhelming in the moment.
10 years on you can’t even remember them or what they looked like naked.
I was in several serious relationships 5+ years ago. Honestly, I can’t remember much about any of them. I can’t even remember where they live anymore.
Breakups and divorce hurt like hell when they happen.
But time heals all romantic wounds. What helped me was moving on to find a new partner. Now that I got recently married that’s where my focus goes.
The past is the past.
I dare say if you’re lovesick then go find new love as soon as possible.
What you will give a f*ck about in 10 years is:
The fact you’re alive.
Was I a good person?
Did I make a difference?
Whether you have regrets.
Did I take care of my family?
Did I achieve my big goals and make progress?
Focus on these things instead.
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Well said, Tim.
Advice which is certainly relevant in this age of distraction where trivialities and fleeting moments take precedence over substance and meaningful endeavor.
Great tips Tim. Something I ponder over. Having regrets may not be a bad thing. Well as long as we are alive and healthy. Because it often tells us we want to do more & be more.