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Easiest/quickest way for me to do this was to stop using Facebook. Cleaned up my content diet and cut out a bunch of toxic people all at once.

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Sep 2, 2022Liked by Tim Denning

A cleansing is necessary before one getz subsumed in a mess. I am inspired.

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I love your articles. You are one of the rare writers that I consistently follow. Your content is honest, funny, succinct and oh! so useful. And the subject that you mention here might seem brutal, but in my view, is in desperate need of being addressed. Our Circle of Influence is a critical aspect of the life we want to have and it is being neglected. Hopefully your article will prompt reaction. And action. As always Tim, thx for writing!

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I had to do this just a few days ago! Reading this made me feel like my actions are valid and I can continue to progress without feeling guilty. I just don't want to be like those people. Thanks for this!

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Many years ago, when I was still in high school, my Dad had a frank conversation with me about the difference between friends and acquaintances. I remember thinking it was a weird word to use and I completely get it now.

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"Many people forget that an inner circle of people you spend time with isn’t just people you can directly email or call.

No.

The podcasts you listen to, Youtube channels or TikToks you’re subscribed to, the books you read – they’re all virtual mentors and part of your inner circle."

Thank you, Tim.

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Sep 1, 2022Liked by Tim Denning

Much truth here......good stuff!

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Really sage advice! Brilliant. Thank you

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Really sage advice! Brilliant. Thank you

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I am in the process of separating myself from my parents and two brothers, primarily for reasons concerning mine and my partner's health, as well as some ongoing behavior habits of the various members. My husband sees and understands the reasons and even agrees. But he's been as good as a part of my family for nearly forty years, and it breaks his heart to cut them off. So he answers the phone when they call. That leads to us taking on obligations we can't support and which expose us to their stressful behaviors. And exacerbates my own guilt. It's hard. But it's necessary.

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Sep 2, 2022·edited Sep 2, 2022Liked by Tim Denning

I loved this article! I have been obsessed with surrounding myself with encouraging and positive things and people since I decided to undertake a career change and job hunt (while taking classes!). I don't think I have had to cut many people out of my life, except for ones that treated me poorly. But, living with my parents, sometimes the environment can be emotionally negative, and like in your article, I have become addicted to uplifting, motivating, and educational podcasts, youtube channels, etc. It's like I have an IV hooked up to them. Great survival tool! I am working on getting in-between work so I can live in a more conducive environment soon. Love my parents, but I need to protect my energy.

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I'll be your affiliate. There, problem solved.

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Ok all important aspects of the article aside, the picture caught my attention. Are the loser friends the ones in the Ohio State shirts or Miami U? I went to Miami. My brother went to Ohio state. Love the photo.

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Sep 1, 2022Liked by Tim Denning

Excellent article, nothing more true than that.

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Sep 1, 2022Liked by Tim Denning

Thank you.

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This is good stuff, Tim. Thanks

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