Not all the details in public my friend sorry. But in addition to pledges of how much attention I would pat her etc, let's just say prowess and knowledge.
According to her most men were bragadocious in their knowledge of "intimacy." I wasn't. Her response was wow.
In other areas everything I made a promise or even said I would "try" to do something, as you said in your article- It was sooner, more through, and above and beyond.
In other words she learned I was to be trusted. I listened. Not to take advantage but to figure out her pain. And was proactive in looking for ways to please her. A relationalship application of how you approached the business clients.
Forgive me for rambling. I don't often open up in public.
But yes, she has said what set me apart from the others was underpromise and overdeliver. A theme in your article which resonated with me.
Doing more than you’re paid to do. My niece is a lawyer in Canada. She wrote an article on LinkedIn about a crisis of mental health among lawyers. My comment was that maybe it had to do with the corrosive culture of selling your time in billable chunks. Time is something that money can’t buy, yet lawyers offer it for sale. It is s a structural impediment to doing more than you are paid to do.
Everything you have written here makes perfect sense. It is normal behaviour for many of us. Thank you for writing this and hopefully many will read it and wake up to the real world.
All of it. Good manners, doing a good job not for praise or validation but because we want to. Treating people with dignity no matter what our role is. Social media has a place but we shouldn’t live in a virtual world permanently. No wonder so many people are lonely or are struggling with mental health issues, we are losing human connection.
Question - You talk about AI complicating things, yet you use Midjourney to generate an image for the article. Why use the application? And how does the picture of the young girl in big glasses have anything to do with what you said? I am genuinely asking. Not trying to be sarcastic. Thank you!
Nothing wrong with using AI in my opinion. The image is an artistic choice. It's supposed to show someone who has their stuff together and is focused. But I just like the image.
I like most, what you wrote, what I also like: Connecting via phone rather with people instead of texting.
You are the first one, getting pissed of that ripped communication ,It feeds to a non-friendly / no-manner society.No potential partners to find, behind such brain. I belive not giving children a phone to text, will automatically make appritiative people out of them.
The question is, how will she be able to connect in older age with the rest of the world, which is blinded, brainwashed and disturbed by those media's?
That's going to be hard I tell you our of experience.
I lived in the Indian countryside for 2 decades, with no internet.
It is devastating to come back in this sick, self entered egoic world.
I can't live and don't want to live in that crazy world anymore.
I am too healthy!
Have again to open my own space, where my healthy truth is appritiated and tgerefore can vibrate freely.
Fabulous post @Tim Denning - in a world of fractured attention the art (and science) of focusing on one thing is key to many aspects of well-being, including success!
Thank you for the great reminder of all this entails!
Spot on - there’s loads of data to support this but we don’t really need the data do we?
We can easily see it with our own eyes - people who can’t follow a stream of logic on other platforms and therefore get triggered and rant furiously, people addicted to ‘doom scrolling’ which requires no attention, and people who want a 30 second ‘hit’ of dopamine without any thinking.
That’s why we LOVE substack - attention is thriving here!
The goal - less ones which are not aware of overdosing random information, and the other goal driven ones, which still got the skills to discern and follow they own dreams.
Just wanted to say a quick "Thank you", Tim! I've been reading you for a while and I resonate with your energy and genuine enthusiasm. The digital world can be quite overwhelming, and finding real people in it is refreshing. So kudos and gratitude!
I agree I need to follow up more. Most of my email subscribers either ghost me immediately or ghost me after asking a question about my offer. I guess I've already left a lot of yeses on the table.
P.S. My admiration for your help to the poor. I kind of knew you do that. Now I know for sure.
It is rare to show common courtesy today, very few say yes sir\maam or no sir\maam or even say thank you or your are welcome. Be nice to people, even your enemies.
Yes yes yes. Personal foundational in every area of life. Even how I won over my wife. UNDERpromise OVERdeliver
Will you tell us the story of how you won over your wife?
Not all the details in public my friend sorry. But in addition to pledges of how much attention I would pat her etc, let's just say prowess and knowledge.
According to her most men were bragadocious in their knowledge of "intimacy." I wasn't. Her response was wow.
In other areas everything I made a promise or even said I would "try" to do something, as you said in your article- It was sooner, more through, and above and beyond.
In other words she learned I was to be trusted. I listened. Not to take advantage but to figure out her pain. And was proactive in looking for ways to please her. A relationalship application of how you approached the business clients.
Forgive me for rambling. I don't often open up in public.
But yes, she has said what set me apart from the others was underpromise and overdeliver. A theme in your article which resonated with me.
wow ....nice
Great article Tim. And write the darn book. Think about how many more people you can help. 😊
What would I write a book on?
You should think about a common theme in your life... For example, Marie Forleo's "Everything is Figuroutable."
Honestly, I think I would call your book "Unfiltered." You can share your writing journey and how being truly authentic changed everything.
Doing more than you’re paid to do. My niece is a lawyer in Canada. She wrote an article on LinkedIn about a crisis of mental health among lawyers. My comment was that maybe it had to do with the corrosive culture of selling your time in billable chunks. Time is something that money can’t buy, yet lawyers offer it for sale. It is s a structural impediment to doing more than you are paid to do.
What a brilliant thought. How did you come up with this realisation Neil?
Because my brain is on fire these days!
I just need to remember to use it
Everything you have written here makes perfect sense. It is normal behaviour for many of us. Thank you for writing this and hopefully many will read it and wake up to the real world.
What part stood out Mary?
All of it. Good manners, doing a good job not for praise or validation but because we want to. Treating people with dignity no matter what our role is. Social media has a place but we shouldn’t live in a virtual world permanently. No wonder so many people are lonely or are struggling with mental health issues, we are losing human connection.
Awesome one. Thanks Tim :)
No probs
Question - You talk about AI complicating things, yet you use Midjourney to generate an image for the article. Why use the application? And how does the picture of the young girl in big glasses have anything to do with what you said? I am genuinely asking. Not trying to be sarcastic. Thank you!
Nothing wrong with using AI in my opinion. The image is an artistic choice. It's supposed to show someone who has their stuff together and is focused. But I just like the image.
Powerful. Packed with tips and ways we can get ahead in graceful beast mode. Perfect example of SHOW not tell. LOVED this piece.
Appreciate it. Any tip that stood out for you?
Generosity, manners and the power of concentration! Right on!
More people need to hear this
I like most, what you wrote, what I also like: Connecting via phone rather with people instead of texting.
You are the first one, getting pissed of that ripped communication ,It feeds to a non-friendly / no-manner society.No potential partners to find, behind such brain. I belive not giving children a phone to text, will automatically make appritiative people out of them.
That's why my daughter doesn't have a phone and we don't feed her any tv.
Thats amazing, that you do that.
The question is, how will she be able to connect in older age with the rest of the world, which is blinded, brainwashed and disturbed by those media's?
That's going to be hard I tell you our of experience.
I lived in the Indian countryside for 2 decades, with no internet.
It is devastating to come back in this sick, self entered egoic world.
I can't live and don't want to live in that crazy world anymore.
I am too healthy!
Have again to open my own space, where my healthy truth is appritiated and tgerefore can vibrate freely.
Fabulous post @Tim Denning - in a world of fractured attention the art (and science) of focusing on one thing is key to many aspects of well-being, including success!
Thank you for the great reminder of all this entails!
Attention spans are reducing. Would you agree Delia?
Spot on - there’s loads of data to support this but we don’t really need the data do we?
We can easily see it with our own eyes - people who can’t follow a stream of logic on other platforms and therefore get triggered and rant furiously, people addicted to ‘doom scrolling’ which requires no attention, and people who want a 30 second ‘hit’ of dopamine without any thinking.
That’s why we LOVE substack - attention is thriving here!
I agree. It separates the 2 kinds of people.
The goal - less ones which are not aware of overdosing random information, and the other goal driven ones, which still got the skills to discern and follow they own dreams.
Love reading your writing!
Can’t help myself: Smelt is an abstract from heating and melting ore. Smelled is past tense of smell.
Thankfully I don't care about grammar. The old english rules are dying. Texting on phones started the trend.
If there is enough phantasy, grammar not needed. It can be also an obsession to edit.
This definitely got you a new follower Tim.
Brilliant.
Much love
Just wanted to say a quick "Thank you", Tim! I've been reading you for a while and I resonate with your energy and genuine enthusiasm. The digital world can be quite overwhelming, and finding real people in it is refreshing. So kudos and gratitude!
Means a lot. Thank you.
I agree I need to follow up more. Most of my email subscribers either ghost me immediately or ghost me after asking a question about my offer. I guess I've already left a lot of yeses on the table.
P.S. My admiration for your help to the poor. I kind of knew you do that. Now I know for sure.
Denis, we must follow up more times than is comfortable. People should give you a yes or a no. I don't let people ghost me.
What can you do to force a response out of people who ghost you?
Follow up with a personal email and (maybe?) let them understand what they get from my offer.
Zombie wasteland 🎧
I am guilty of this…I rarely go for a walk without listening to a podcast.
It’s funny how our technological devices become an extension of our body at some point.
Would you consider changing this habit now, Amy?
Indeed, I already have 🙂
It is rare to show common courtesy today, very few say yes sir\maam or no sir\maam or even say thank you or your are welcome. Be nice to people, even your enemies.